Axon not reaching eventhandler

Anyone run into this issue?
I have an axon,java,spring,jpa app with my own event store running on kubernetes on prem. everything works and eventually the event will to get to the event store, only to my commandhandler and somewhere in between that and the eventhandler it doesnt get there. No errors, I’ve optimized as much as I can. When I restart the app on the servers it starts working, and even locally when I connect to the same database it locks when app is hanging and works when I restart the dev enviroment? Any thoughts? i’m going crazy here